Lying is one of the most common behaviors in humans.
Sometimes we need to tell the white lies to protect others’ feelings. But, there are some people probably lying all the time. The reality is that lies can be much more serious than you think, and they can ruin any kind of relationship.
You may wonder how to know when someone is lying. Surprisingly, it’s hard to detect lies. Between honest and lying individuals, it’s quite a challenge to point out the behavioral differences of these two. But, of course it’s not impossible!
What are signs of when someone lies to you and you know the truth?
Check out some helpful indicators in the following:
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8 Signs Your Partner NOT Telling You the Truth
Detecting a lie often comes down to one thing, which is: trusting your intuition. By knowing signs a person might tell lies, you can accurately detect if they’re honest to you or not. In the following, I’ve come up with 8 signs that your partner might not be telling the truth:
1. They act differently
The first indicator to determine whether or not they’re lying is to look at how they normally behave. Is your partner under stress? If the answer is yes, then probably it’s because they are being deceptive. In addition, they look distant and distracted when having conversations with you.
Or, normally they are not the PDA type but all of sudden overload you with loving gestures. It’s odd, right? Whatever they are doing, something is a bit off. If you notice your partner is acting not like usual, tell yourself that this is a sign.
Changes in behavior always indicate something, so don’t ignore them.
See also: Signs he has strong feelings for you
2. They say "I never lie"
This is completely a lie!
If someone tells you that they’ve never lied in their lives or they don’t and won’t ever lie, they are lying. We all at least say white lies once, for ourselves or for anyone else. It’s okay with all the little lies, but the boundary between fibs and dishonesty is thin.
There shouldn’t be any secrets in a relationship. Two persons in love with each other must be honest in most things so that the connection can be stronger. If one day you find out your partner lying to you, the result won’t be good.
3. Their posts on social media contradict to what they told you
If your partner told you that they were at a certain place, but then you found out their post on Instagram displayed the location at somewhere else. This is strange; however, sometimes unexpected things happen, so their plans could have changed. Or they weren’t really honest to you from the beginning.
This situation often occurs between couples, actually. If you want to avoid hurt feelings in a relationship, then it’s better to establish social media rules with your partner when starting dating.
4. They avoid eye contact
Not making eye contact is an obvious sign that someone is lying.
When your partner refuses to make eye contact with you, one of the reasons could be that they want to hide something. If they are the type who often does eye contact but now avoid having eye contact during the conversation, especially when you’re asking them something, the high chance is that they could be lying.
5. They say "I didn’t do it"
Again, when your partner says that they didn’t do something, bla bla…, it means they did it. This could be seen as a sign they are telling lies. When you suspect them of doing something inappropriate behind your back and they say "I didn’t do it", then 90% they are not honest to you.
So, aside from their behaviors, you should pay attention to their words to know if the person you love is truthful enough.
6. They accuse you of lying
Here comes another way they will do when their lies get caught. Instead of admitting their mistake and apologizing, they will accuse you of lying or cheating depending on the situation. But, one thing for sure, they will put all the blame on you just to justify their actions.
When your partner is cheating or lying behind your back, they will think and assume that you might be doing the same to revenge on them.
7. They keep a distance from you
Did you realize that your partner is leaning away from you?
People who keep lying in love relationships tend to being distant from their partners because they’re afraid their behaviors, actions, and words can point out they are hiding something from you.
8. Your friend or someone else tells you that your partner is lying
Trust me – you will never feel good knowing your partner lying from others. Why? You thought that only you can see his suspicious behavior; however, his act is unknowingly so obvious that others can easily realize. It’s hard to hear them saying they saw something fishy, like your partner is meeting someone else.
If it’s just one person’s doubt, you can leave it out of your ears. But once your friends or a couple of people show you the evidence of your partner lying and express their concerns, you need to have a serious talk with your partner.
Other red flags that someone may lie to you:
- Repeating questions before giving the answers
- Failing to provide specific details when they talk about a story
- Speaking in sentence fragments
- Showing anxious behaviors such as playing with hair and fingers or touching lips
- Being vague
The Bottom Line
So, what to do when someone lies to you and you know the truth?
In fact, there’s not sure sign that someone is lying. The best way is to pay more attention to their subtle behaviors that might have connection with deception. If necessary, you can be more initiative and active in adding pressure to that person. Finally, and most importantly, trust your instincts. When dealing with dishonesty, your gut sends you some intuitive senses of honesty.