How would you feel if one day your partner comes and tells you the truths that they’ve hidden for a long time? Have you ever been in that situation? What to do when someone lies to you in a relationship?
I believe that all of us, in that case, will feel disappointed.
It’s understandable to be disappointed – because the other party did lie to you. There are various reasons for someone to tell lies. Before condemning them, it’s necessary to prepare yourselves mentally and emotionally.
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5 MUST Things to Do When He Lies
In a relationship, if a man is lying, his partner will find out sooner or later.
From my experience, men sometimes are not good at lying compared to women, while we all know women are more observant than men. Due to that, once your boyfriend or partner is lying, you can find out easily at times.
But then, what should you do with men’s lies?
Here are things you have to do when in doubt:
1. Pretend not to notice
There are always trivial lies or white lies because he wants to surprise you or avoids upsetting you. If that’s what you are dealing with, then it’s probably better to pretend like you don’t know or realize. Sometimes a few things happening don’t need to be exposed, and it’s not necessary to know everything.
However, not all lies are harmless, and if it’s something extremely serious that could affect your relationship negatively, you definitely need to clarify.
2. Speak up depending on the content
The content of a lie will be different with each person. However, if his lie is something that you can hardly forgive, it’s definitely a good idea to have an honest conversation and clear up everything. If you don’t speak up, then misunderstanding will be created between the two of you, and the conflict will become worse.
If that lie involves the third person, things will get even more complicated. We advise you to open up and talk to him before your relationship can’t be saved.
3. Talk about his lying habit
Honestly, some people think that a lie can’t become a lie unless getting caught. You know that lying is not good and you shouldn’t lie, but when it becomes your habit, you even lie when it’s not necessary.
Lots of men tend to have this habit of lying, making themselves untrustworthy. It doesn’t matter if your partner’s lies are harmless or not, one thing for sure, his words will slowly lose credibility in a long-term relationship. You will soon find yourself hardly trust him, and your relationship will be greatly affected.
Therefore, you should better talk to him and help him fix this bad habit.
Read more: How do guys feel when you cut them off?
4. Ask about the reason why he lies
There are many reasons why he lies, maybe because he thinks about you, because he wants to surprise you, or because he is afraid that you will find out something bad that he has done. So, once you know he is lying, don’t quickly get angry but calmly ask him the reason for his lie. Maybe he is not cheating on you or no longer loves you, but instead he is planning a big surprise for you.
The important thing in a relationship is trust, so always thinking about the other person in mind. Once realizing that you can’t continue this relationship because of your partner’s lies, do what you think it’s the best for you!
5. Don’t quickly make a decision
The disappointed feeling when realizing that your lover has lied to you will influence your emotions negatively, making you want to leave that person (especially if he tells lie because of someone else).
Still, you shouldn’t be too quick to jump to the conclusion or make ill-considered decisions about the future of your relationship.
When facing with lying of your partner, the emotions will get stirred and overwhelm your clear mind. After questioning him about his act, your best action is to release your negative emotions by fun activities, such as watching movies, hanging out with friends, going shopping, meeting new people, and more.
Once you calm down, it’s time to consider and judge the wrong action of your boyfriend, and you will be able to make the best choice for your love life.
3 Common Signs He is Lying to Spot
If you feel suspicious about your other half, thinking that they are hiding something from you, check these following signs to see whether or not your intuition is right:
He often overlooks important details
When you ask him where he’s been or what he’s doing, he’ll respond very casually and don’t want to mention about details like the location or who he’s with. The ambiguous story and hesitant behavior show that he’s not being truthful with what he is saying.
He is too nervous
Wondering how does a cheater feel?
You may notice symptoms like sweating, shaking hands, blabbering in a liar because he is extremely nervous and afraid that the other person will find out the truth. When lying, his heart rate is much higher than others’. If you find all these things in your partner, it means he is definitely lying to you.
He avoids your look
Body language is also an effective sign!
If he doesn’t dare to look at you in the eye during a conversation, it means he may have something hiding you. Normally, we tend to make eye contact while communicating, but liars often look around; for example, staring at a light bulb, peeking at the floor, or glancing at the surroundings. It’s because they are worried that their partner will reveal the truth.
So, what to do when someone lies to you in a relationship?
Lying is a common behavior in life and in any relationship – especially in love. If you feel that your partner is lying behind your back, this article is definitely for you. No matter what excuses are made, lying is something difficult to accept in love.
We were honest human beings since we were born. However, in the process of development, we’ve learned to lie. From harmless lies to harmful lies, surely these could change your relationships negatively and possibly destroy them forever.