He is definitely not a sociopath!
Distant, aloof, and lackadaisical, it’s hard for an emotionally unavailable man to fall in love because he’s built lots of barriers around him.
It’s not that he doesn’t want to be in love.
Nevertheless, the moment he attempts to let you in, something inside his heart just shuts down. He can be open and kind to you, but he will immediately stop himself from thinking further about anything romantically.
If so, what are signs an emotionally unavailable man is in love?
When his energy is blocked, he can still crave an intimate, loving relationship; however, it’s just that he has not enough power to make it happen. Take advantage of the witchcraft like putting a love spell on your man can somewhat help him overcome emotion unavailability.
Keep track of this article for the answer!
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Does an Emotionally Unavailable Man Fall in Love?
First and foremost, everyone falls in love.
We are human, and we can’t help or control it when love comes. There would be fewer broken hearts in the world if we got the control of whom and when we fall in love.
Okay, let’s go back to the main topic!
Don’t be sad if he chooses someone else over you; sometimes he tends to reject love completely and only involves in half-assed relationships.
You find yourself have feelings with an emotionally unavailable guy, but the problem here is that you don’t know if he can fall in love with you. The answer is: yes, he can; nonetheless, it needs much effort for him to change.
There are some things you have to keep in mind:
- He has to WANT to change
- You must be the right woman for him
- You must give him time to figure out his emotions
- You need to respect who he is and accept him
- He wants to be with someone that can keep things positive
- You should not push or pressure him to commit
- He will run away from clingy women
Never act distant to an emotionally unavailable man if you find him turn down your feelings.
Getting him to open up requires more than just 1-2 days – don’t expect him to grow his interest in you immediately after being moody and emotionally detached for several months or years. Even if he desperately wants to change, the process might take a long period.
What to do if your emotionally unavailable ex wants you to come back?
Feelings are hard for all of us!
Therefore, a man who’s been shut down for so long needs some alone time to have insight about his current circumstance.
How to Tell an Emotionally Unavailable Man is in Love?
Men who are emotionally unavailable are claimed to be distant and uncommunicative. The reason is: they unconsciously want to protect themselves from trauma as well as emotional wounds in the past.
When being in a relationship with the guy who isn’t available emotionally, you’ll easily end up getting hurt.
Find out what to talk about with your boyfriend!
But, it doesn’t mean that he purposefully tries to trick or play games with you. It’s just that he can’t love a woman truly or be in a healthy, whole, happy relationship.
You think that he feels afraid of admitting his feelings for you?
As told earlier, the emotionally unavailable men can change, but it depends mainly on their own efforts. It is possible for a person emotionally unavailable man to fall deeply in love with you; nonetheless, you shouldn’t expect him to have strong connection with you on a deeper level.
When dating this kind of man, you need to:
#1: Poke his emotions a bit
Whenever he becomes emotional, you should come up with encouragement. He may not response anything while you’re around, but he actually appreciates and feels at least you still stand by his side.
#2: Feed him information
Emotionally unavailable men are very self-centered.
So basically your emotionally unavailable guy does not care about anything surrounding him. If you want him to pay attention to you, then the best way is to offer him the information or ask him interesting questions.
#3: Match his self-centered nature
Your guy could be a narcissist…if so, then how to deal with this?
To get along with the emotionally unavailable man, the key is to match everything he says. He is most likely narcissistic; this explains why he often refuses to response you.
#4: Give him the space he needs
It’s necessary to know when your emotionally unavailable lover needs space.
If he wants to stay alone, chances are he is dealing with something difficult. All men are indeed like that, but while others just ask for a few days to sort things out, your man may take forever to handle the pain.
Of course you need to give him some alone time he requires, but within reason. Ask him how long he needs to solve his private issues.
In Conclusion
Is the man of your dream too emotionally distant to let you in? Or, are you in a relationship with a man who is disconnected from his and your emotions?
Hope this article can help you understand your partner better as well as know how to hand him in a love romance.
In case your emotionally unavailable man still shows no emotions after everything you’ve done, it’s time to leave him behind. You do have your own life and seem like already spending enough time for him.
If he doesn’t deserve your love, then it’s better not to waste a second more!
I dated this guy for almost 4 months. He was super into me, so sweet. Had me meet his dad right away, asking me to be his girlfriend in a month. I went camping with his friends and met another group of 18 friends at thanksgiving. He promptly dumped me the next day over text. It turns out he cheated on me I think with prostitutes when he went to Cuba with his friend. He hardly had sex with me. Claimed to love my body and always called me sexy. But hardly kissed me, never really cuddled me. But we never fought, we laughed a lot together. I do see now all the red flags. But he seemed so into me. He always wanted to see me. I would sleep over all weekend. It was so strange how he couldn’t be intimate with me hardly and went of cheated and felt really guilty and told me but broke up with me first. All via text . I’m still having trouble understanding why if he had such intimacy issues. Why did he have me meet all his friends and family and push for a commitment? They normally are slow to commit I thought ? It really blind sided me. Do you think he really cared about me? He said he loved me right after we broke up but he still didnt want to stay together. When the week that he left, he said he was crazy about me? I’m so confused still.
I think it’s actually just the opposite — they are very enthusiastic at the very beginning and fall fast so when you get really close, they get scared and run. And every time you are intimate, they push you away. At least that was my experience.
It was probably so much easier for him to be with a prostitute since there are no feelings involved.
Sorry for your sadness — it sucks but you’re better off without him.
I had an affair with an man who is already in a committed relationship for a month .. we both were emotionally and physically involved .. it was intense and amazing then he said he is guilty and stopped the physical part and i was heart broken but ok with it but after the holidays he became super distant.. so basically he cut off normal friendship and flirting and is even rude to me a lot of times 🙁 but he seems to want attention from me and when I talk to him he is checking me out so pretty passing mixed messages .. it’s hurting me a lot but I love this guy ., not sure what to do .. I see him everyday can’t remove him from my life ..
I happen to be an emotional unavailable man after my girlfriend left me heart broke 14 months ago and honestly, it sucks. Being emotionally unavailable I cannot fall in love. And because of that I had to let go a lovely girl today. I mean she was perfect. She was exactly like me. She was beautiful, geeky, funny. Everything I really wanted. But I never managed to feel one thing. And honestly it hurt to let her go, because I didn’t want to, but I had to because I didn’t wanna end up hurting HER in the future. At this point I don’t know what to do. Could someone please give me advice?
Hi William,
People who are emotionally unavailable pose some frustrating problems for those who are in touch with their own feelings and would like the person they are with to be in touch with his or her feelings too.
While they can talk about feelings to actually feel the feelings is avoided. somewhere in their past they may have learned that feelings are weak, dangerous (such as anger-which is usually rage) and aren’t to be expressed under any circumstances. Oddly enough, they believe that showing anger is a terrible infraction of what they see are positive rules of good conduct, rather than a natural expression when one is hurt by the actions of another.
These individuals are strangely detached though it may not be apparent immediately.
They may appear jovial, always in control of their emotions(and they are) but after awhile one gets the sense that it is all a facade, a wall that protects them from their deep seated, unresolved and yet unexpressed anger which is somewhere, deep below the surface.
Getting along with these subjects isn’t a problem, but when offended rather than talk about it they may take a passive aggressive stance which for them is far superior to ever letting out any of the unexpressed anger they seemingly have under control.
In therapy they will express everything by the way they are thinking. When asked how they feel about something they will think about the question and then give the therapist the thought rather than the feeling.
Good luck.
William –
Is there anything she could have done differently to keep you from letting her go? Or to help the relationship move forward? Could you stayed friends ?
I’m in the exact situation you described, but on the girls’ side. I had a guy do to me what you just did to her. Is there anything I can do that would help him open up?
Thanks
Hi Tasha,
The best way to “get” a man to share his feelings with you is to stop trying to “get” him to. Instead, focus on listening to him talk about what he does share, demonstrating a sincere interest, and realizing that anything he shares with you (no matter how trivial you may think it is) is part of his inner world and closely tied to his feelings. The more he feels understood and comfortable talking to you about himself in general, the more he will share about his feelings.
Sincere
Involved in a man – it will be two years in December. I think he looks at youtube strippers to get off on. I barely get a hug or kiss. He is emotionally unavailable. I have talked to him about it. Nothing. He says he loves me.
Hi dear,
A relationship can not work by the effort of a single person . It involves two people and it has to be like this . If you feel that your bf cannot satisfy you on emotional front , just give up trying because sooner or later it is bound to leave you frustrated. If you can not reach out to him in your emotional need then it is a futile relationship. You may have all the wealth in the world but if your partner is emotionally blank then take a u turn and think seriously about whether it is really worthwhile to pursue it. Moreover you yourself do not seem the kind who does not need any emotional compatibility.. There are people in the world who remain detached and are still complete in many ways because their needs are limited and so do not want to carry any emotional baggage, but you do not fall in this category so reconsider and then move on.
Sincere
Hello Adrian,
Thank you so much for your commentary. I am in love with a man who straight up told me he’s “emotionally unavailable” after I expressed that I was interestedly to in him. It was already evident in his texting habits, as easily dropping off and not responding. I should have known to be honest as we surf together but he always would leave the water without me. He says he’s still in love with his abusive ex and so I told him I wasn’t gonna be able to surf together anymore. That was a couple weeks ago. Now he’s inviting me to surf but I don’t know if he’s just trying to keep tabs on me out of fear of losing me. I asked him and so waiting for his response. I really feel like he is the one for me, I just hope some day he feels the same.